People often think no contact is a revenge action, but no contact is actually a start to healing. In this episode we are talking to Dylesia Hampton Barner is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who help women recover from mother-daughter trauma and raise mentally, emotionally, & spiritually healthy daughters. Dylesia shares her experience growing up with her mother and how it eventually led to her going no contact.
In this episode, we discuss…
- How to put the ball back in the “perpetrators” court
- How you going “no contact” wasn’t the cause of no longer communicating with the person you went no contact with
- How emotional and verbal abuse also lends to psychological abuse
- The way gaslighting moves from just your mom messing with you into various aspects of your life
- How you as the “victim” spends most of their energy/resources/time trying to mend the relationship
- What is the rule of thumb on deciding to go “no contact”
- How you can regress into a “little girl” around the person
This conversation allows you to learn and understand the experience of not being valued, heard, loved or seen by their mothers . Sometimes this requires the hard decision to put themselves first and go no contact.